The man took to the popular Subreddit “Am I the A**hole” to ask the internet whether or not his feelings were wrong. He prefaced his popular post by sharing that he doesn’t actually feel bad about his emotions.
He explained that he and his girlfriend both said they didn’t want children, but ended up having unprotected sex after a friend’s wedding. He said he was drunk while she was sober and when asked why they didn’t take precautions, she responded that they were both “not thinking straight.” Six weeks later, she was pregnant.
“I felt my whole world crumble the second she told me she was pregnant. I had suicidal thoughts for a few days but eventually decided to just get it together. It takes two to make a baby, and I made my bed. I should’ve gotten a vasectomy when I had the chance,” he wrote.
The purchase of baby clothes, however, led to an emotional confession from the girlfriend, he explained. “She even started tearing up and said she knew she did the right thing. She went on to confess she knew even if she got pregnant on purpose, i’d be happy because she saw how much i loved taking care of my niece. I got livid and told her it’s not the same f***ing thing and she had no right to do that without my consent.”
After a few days out of the house he finally returned home. Last week, though, the girlfriend suffered a miscarriage. “Honest;y? I feel alive again. I don’t have to be tied to her or a child for the rest of my life. She’s grieving really hard right now and I don’t want to make it worse by breaking up with her, but I’m definitely going to get it over with soon enough,” he shared.
Miscarriages often lead to hard times in any relationship. A study published in the Pediatrics journal, showed married or cohabitating couples who had a miscarriage were 22 percent more likely to break up than couples who had a healthy baby at full-term.
Respondents to the popular post were left siding with the boyfriend, believing he had been duped into the pregnancy.
“You dodged a life-long bullet. Everyone would have been miserable if the pregnancy was successful. She is a psycho for trying to trap you like that,” wrote one user.
“You’re not an a**hole in my opinion,” ruled another. “You don’t want children and she tried to trick you.”
“Dodged a bullet kind,” agreed one other. “I had a very similar situation a few years ago.”
A user noted that: “She baby trapped you and will do it again. Hard pass.”
